Learning How to Not be Hard On Yourself
In life, we must learn how to not be too hard on ourselves. When practicing the Mucusless Diet Healing System, it is crucially important to learn how to not be hard on yourself. Obsessing over little dietary details, or constantly thinking that you are not good enough can do more harm then good.
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Self-Esteem Struggles and Cultivating a Healthy Self-Image
The Mucus-free Lifestyle will challenge you in ways that you did not expect. One challenge that the diet brings to the surface is self-esteem issues and potentially poor self-images. Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S., explains,
Many people look in the mirror and see someone they don’t like very much. They see faults, flaws and failures. They feel shame, embarrassment and maybe even anger toward themselves. Part of the reason some people have poor self-esteem is a discrepancy between expectations and reality (though this reality is usually distorted). (See Tartakovsky, Self-Esteem Struggles and Strategies that Can Help)
Within the plant-based community, there are many people developing unrealistic expectations about what they can do, and the speed with which they can do it. For instance, people exposed to people talking about eating nothing but raw-fruit can develop an unrealistic expectation to achieve a diet like this without many years of dedicated transition.
People who think that the Mucusless Diet is about “being all raw” or “eating only fruit” or “being totally mucus-free” or “being off mucus next year” or “fasting as long as I can,” do not understand Ehret’s work or the Mucusless Diet Healing System. Take another look at Ehret’s words. It is a totally customizable system that encourages you take your time, relax, don’t stress out, and enjoy the process of gradually cleansing your body, mind, and spirit.
Sure, there are instances where people are suffering from terrible ailments and may not be able to transition slow at first. Exceptions and flexibility abounds with the Mucusless Diet. But, for people not suffering from chronic illness, a long-term transitional mentality should be adopted. Take the pressure of yourself to “be mucus-free tomorrow” and allow yourself the time to navigate various plant-based plateaus.
Read “How to Get Out of Your Head” here=> https://www.mucusfreelife.com/get-out-of-your-head/
Why Some People Have Self-worth Issues But Not Others
Tartakovsky explains,
Regardless of their experiences, some people seem to struggle more than others with their self-esteem. Why? According to Howes, a shaming environment may be one explanation. In shaming environments, individuals internalize the idea that if they act out, they’re not just behaving badly, but they are bad, Howes says. “A boy sneaks a cookie from the cookie jar – is he told that is the wrong behavior, or that he’s a bad boy? If the message that you are fundamentally bad is drilled in enough times, it tends to stick.” (Tartakovsky, Self-Esteem Struggles)
Within many plant-based communities, there is an overall environment in which shaming people who do not live up to the dogmatic standards established by a few is commonplace. I’ve seen a number of vegan and raw-vegan forums or Facebook groups that harshly criticize anyone that does not fully embody the ideals of the forum.
I’ve seen some “Facebook Group Guidelines” that seemed more like a fascist constitution than a loving set of rules to foster civility. In these environments, people without an unbreakable self-esteem can come to feel horrible about themselves.
People have told me that they sometimes feel like that in the Ehret Facebook group. Although I’ve done my best to try and foster a loving and supportive environment, less than constructive criticisms still happen. My appeal to the Mucus-free Community, is to not judge someone’s efforts to transition, but be supportive and loving.
This does not mean we cannot share constructive critiques and identify boundaries, but we should be mindful of how we do it. There are constructive ways to give criticism, and some members of the community must work to learn some of these ways.
Spira’s “Don’t Be Hard On Yourself” Youtube Video
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Ways to Build Self-Esteem
There are a number of was to build self-esteem that professionals in the field of psychology and self-improvement suggest. Some include:
- Doing charitable work, as it is “hard to simultaneously hold onto self-hatred when you’re actively engaged in acts of charity (Ryan Howes, Ph.D.).”
- Getting Counseling or Life Coaching
- Group Therapy Sessions
- Meditation
- Releasing Techniques
- Doing Something that You Love
- Spend Time with Loving Friends and Family
- Healthy Relationships Should Begain with Self-love
- Remove Toxic Relationships from Your Life
- Stop Comparing Yourself to Others*
- And so on.
Although it can be very helpful to watch great motivational speakers, more info about this can be found at sportsspeakers360.com, you will still need to do work on yourself. Don’t fall into the trap of feeling good for an hour while a great speaker talks, and then it wears off as you go home.
Gain the courage to look inward and face your fears of failure and ideas that you are not good enough. You are good enough, and you do not need anybodies validation. Even though I think you are great, that doesn’t even matter. You have to know that you are great and worthy of being happy and free.
Although I’ve studied and practiced many self-help related systems over the years meant to cultivate high self-esteem, the Sedona Method is still my favorite.
Check out my review of the method here: https://youtu.be/rC2wck79yv8 and check out the program on Amazon here (I recommend the old Audio CD course from around 2000 if you can find them): http://bit.ly/sedona-cds.
Don’t Be Hard On Yourself
In conclusion, you must learn to love and accept yourself. Set realistic goals and work to build a healthy self-image. The Mucusless Diet is your lifestyle and it can be a passion of yours, but it should not be an unhealthy obsession. Study the system and then have fun living your life. And most importantly, don’t be hard on yourself.
Peace, Love, and Breath!
Prof. Spira, Ph.D.
Mucus-free Life LLC
Hello Prof. Spira,
What are your thoughts on chestnuts(in the sweet potato family I believe) as a transitional item? (Not water chestnuts)
Thanks,
Kristy
Hello Prof. Spira,
What are your thoughts on chestnuts(in the sweet potato family I believe) as a transitional item? (Not water chestnuts)
Thanks,
Kristy